Every business owner has drama.
Not small drama, either.
Whether you’re making millions or pennies, you have Big Stuff impacting your business.
Drama makes people afraid. Paralyzed. Worried. Flaky. Stressed. Impulsive. Depressed. Hyper. Reclusive. Insecure. Quick to rattle. Closed-minded. Easily led. The list could go on forever.
You, by being alive, are one of these people.
Your drama affects your ability to run your business.
Should we address this issue now?
Let’s replace “drama” with “psychological block.”
(We addressed psychological blocks in an earlier post about doubling your revenue and profit. If you haven’t read it, click that link. It will pop up in a new window or tab so you won’t lose this page.)
Let’s define a psychological block as “the thing you’re thinking that’s screwing you up.”
That thing tends to create lots of drama inside your head. Lots of strong emotions that either overpower you or drag you down. Instead of doing your thing, you’re not doing your thing. Instead of feeling good, you’re feeling terrible.
This happens in peaks and valleys. Sometimes you’re feeling good. Sometimes you look back and think, “Oh my god, I expected to get SO much more done! I suck!” Liberal application of gin and tonics ensues. Shortly after that, you’re listening to Leonard Cohen.
Let’s see if we can help you through the psychological blocks. (If you don’t do it for your business, at least do it for your liver.)
This is the ONLY thing you have to do (to start).
When defusing a psychological block, there is one critical step that must come first.
You have to decide to DO it.
That’s where everyone fails.
They don’t decide it’s REALLY time to fix their block. They don’t decide it has to GO, once and for all. They wander around feeling bad and wondering why it’s not getting better.
You must decide that you will beat this thing.
Even if you have no idea how that’s going to happen.
All you have to do to begin is decide you’re definitely going to DO it. It is not too big for you. No matter how many years it has dominated your thinking, you are going to resolve it.
That is all you have to do to start.
Give 100% of your attention to making the decision that enough is enough. This drama is not okay anymore. You refuse to let it have power over you anymore.
This is easier said than done, but it can be done. You can do it if you stop handing all your power over to your drama.
Remember when you started your business? When you just told yourself you were going to DO this thing? Even though you had no idea how you were going to pull it off? And you just decided to begin, without the thought of giving up in your head? That’s what we’re going to do here.
If you can step away from yourself for just a moment, you can get some distance. You can say out loud that you don’t HAVE to spend your life letting this drama claim dominion. You can believe there’s something you can do, and you are going to do it.
Once that’s out of the way, do this.
The next step is pretty simple. It gets you out of your head and into other people’s heads.
The goal of this step is to break the power of your psychological block. At this point, you may feel like your situation is unique. It’s possible you feel your issue is permanent or unsolvable. This step takes the power away from those beliefs.
All you have to do in this step is ask yourself this question:
“What do OTHER people do when they are trying to fix this problem?”
You’ll come up with a few ideas. Each one of them will trigger little voices in your head. “But my issue is different. Maybe that works for them, but it won’t work for me.”
This is normal and understandable. We all think we are unique and special flowers. We think we have unsolvable problems. Our dramas are different than everyone else’s.
Ok, but let’s play pretend. Just for a tiny little moment, pretend your drama isn’t THAT different. There are seven billion people on this planet. Surely a few of them have issues that are close to the one you have.
Nobody’s situation is truly unique. Maybe the total collection of each of your particular circumstances is fairly unique. But take any one of them and there are a hundred people solving the problem in a hundred ways.
Whatever obstacle you’re facing, someone has found a solution to it. Someone has found a solution that will work for you… as soon as you stop telling yourself it won’t.
When other people DECIDE to solve the problem that you also have, they find a way.
The solution is out there. The only thing in question is your willingness to find the solution, even if it takes a while to do so.
Ask yourself how other people solve the issues you’re facing. If you don’t think it will work for YOU, then ask the question a little deeper this time. Maybe change the question to “How do other people like ME tend to solve this problem?”
Assume the solution exists.
No matter how disorganized you are…
no matter how much you procrastinate…
no matter how much you feel like you don’t have the time…
or the courage…
or the confidence…
or the skill…
There are a hundred people out there – who are just like you or have it WAY worse than you – who find a way.
Your job is to become that kind of person.
Again, not remotely easy, but there is generally no reason a drama has to stay a drama. Thanks to the power of Google, the solutions you need are there for the finding.
It only works if you did the first step – deciding to DO it.
There is no pithy wrap-up to this post.
I’d love to give you seven top tips. I wish I could slice and dice every drama you may have in your business.
But there aren’t. And I can’t. Life is a pain in the ass sometimes. That’s a fact.
You don’t have to invite the pain in the ass in, tell it to take the good couch, and stay as long as it wants.
You don’t have to let your drama rule you forever.
YOU rule YOU.
Don’t let your partner, your parents, or anyone else tell you anything different.
Don’t even let YOU tell you anything different.
You get to decide what kind of life you have from this day forward.
When you decided to start your business, no one could stop you.
When you decide you want this drama out of your life, no one can stop you, either.